Ashes (poem by me)

Why am I like this?
I looked around for…

some passerby to shame,
some foe to frame,
some kin to blame,
some circumstance to name,
some truth to maim,

I found nothing but
my own wicked heart,
It crumbled like ashes
in my cupped hand,
leaving soot residue
that I blew at you
and called it love.

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God Is For You


Christians sometimes go through periods of loss or tragedy. In that time, some of us might ask “Why, God?” or start to think God has turned against us and is causing these terrible things to happen to us. Then, we become angry at God. With anger between us and the Lord, we will begin to feel distant and wonder how we can draw near to Christ. We can get closer to God by remembering the truth of God’s Word.

We all ask it. “Why, God?” The question sounds innocent enough (and sometimes we ask it with a pure heart). But if we really searched our hearts, we would find that most of the time we are really blaming God. By asking, we are insinuating it’s God’s fault for either making this horrible event happen (or letting it happen.)

Is God at fault? God’s way is perfect (Psalm 18:30) so He does not deserve our blame. God works everything that happens for our good. If you are in the regular habit of asking God why He allowed awful things to happen in your life, try to stop thinking “Why, God?” Instead, remind yourself that God is working everything together for your good.

Notice how God did not cause Job’s tragedies. Rather, Satan had launched a full-scale attack against Job! Christians must remember we are at war with evil forces. Satan and his demons still use a variety of tactics in modern day times. The enemy aims to discourage us, distance us from God, and turn some from Him completely.

Christians discuss the importance of faith in God all of the time. In the book of Job, we read about a time when God had faith in a man. In Job 1:8 God said of Job, “….There is no one on earth like him; he is blameless and upright, a man who fears God and shuns evil.” After Satan attacked, we read in Job 1:22 that “…Job did not sin by charging God with wrongdoing.”

I think God has faith in you. In fact, I believe He has said something wonderful about you. He is probably proud of the way you handled tragedy and held onto your faith. Consider the reward you have in heaven for overcoming this difficult time while still maintaining a strong love for God.

If we have allowed ourselves to blame God, we might also feel some anger toward Him. Whether you acknowledge anger at God or not, the Lord knows it exists. He loves you and does not want it getting in between you and Him. Anger must be dealt with, and it cannot be managed until it is acknowledged. Take a moment now to think of what lingering anger you have aimed at God.

  • Confess it. Lord, I confess I am angry at you for _______.
  • Ask forgiveness for it. Lord, please forgive me for my unjustified anger. I know You only desire what’s best for me.

It may take some time for deep anger to be completely released, but you are on your way to healing from that unrighteous anger. Try to remember to deal with anger at God as soon as it rises up within you. Never hide it. God knows how you feel, and He is eager to listen and forgive.

Hang in there! God loves you.

Lord, Thank You that You love us so much. Thank You for sending Your Son to die for us and sending Your Spirit to us so that we maintain a supernatural strength in times of loss and tragedy. We praise Your awesome Name. In Christ’s Name, Amen.

Click here to watch Chris Tomlin’s “Our God.” It is a great reminder that God is for you.

© 2015 Kim Bond

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For Victims of Emotional Abuse


As Christians, we are not exempt from the problems of the world. Many of us ask for prayers in tough situations. In fact, some prayer requests I have read even recount signs of emotional abuse. Emotional abuse seems to surface often in romantic relationships and parent-child relationships, but it could be in employment settings or friendships, etc.

Signs of emotional abuse include:

  • Blaming when it is inappropriate. Abusers cannot accept their own faults. They rarely apologize and will most often shift their own blame to the victim.
  • Manipulating the victim’s emotions by rejecting him/her. It is healthy sometimes for an angry person to walk away and cool off, but an abuser might refuse to communicate for the purpose of controlling their victim’s emotions.
  • Humiliating and isolating the victim. Abusers will often call their victim names and keep them from maintaining healthy friendships.

If you think you are the victim of emotional abuse, know that God cares deeply for you. He knows your pain and wants to help. Victims must find the peace that comes only from God when the abuser becomes angry and abusive. They should be aware they are highly treasured no matter how the abuser tries to manipulate them. Even when the storms blow, we can keep calm and recite the truth of God’s Word about ourselves as the children of God.

I strongly recommend prayer, supportive friends, scheduling a talk with your pastor, and the help of a Christian counselor. They will be your best resources since they can gain a good understanding of your particular situation.

If you have endured emotional abuse, you may be walking around feeling the weight of your own sin along with the heavy burden of blame heaped on by your abuser. Remember that as a Christian, you no longer need to carry the weight of a sin burden. Click here to enjoy a beautiful song with touching images called “What Sin?”

If you are not a Christian, consider giving your life to Jesus today. His blood already paid your sin debt but if you do not receive the payment then you are still in your sin. You cannot pay for this sin yourself. Only the blood of a sinless man, Jesus, can pay for your sin. Accept God’s plan of salvation by crying out to the Lord in prayer right now. Jesus, I accept your blood as payment for my lifetime of sin. I believe you died and rose again on the third day. I want to have an eternal life that is free from pain in heaven with you. Amen.

That’s all it takes to become a Christian. Blessings!

© 2015 Kim Bond

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