Misconceptions (poem by me)

Girl
Head high
Fears nothing
For no one harms
Her more than herself
Mutilation
She is a
Cutter
Girl

Hurt
Thinking
Of the day
She lost control
Abused and misused
Who has the knife
Now, Daddy
Self harm
Hurt

God
Hoping
He is not
Like her father
Shred misconceptions
Accept and give
Forgiveness
Loving
God

And do not call anyone on earth ‘father,’ for you have one Father, and he is in heaven. —Matthew 23:9

*This is NOT a biographical poem. Although my dad was not perfect, every memory I have of him is sweet—God rest his soul.

© 2016 Kim Bond

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For Victims of Child Sex Abuse

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There are many types of sexual abuse and all are devastating. One of the most difficult types of sexual abuse occurs when the victim is a child. Oftentimes, the abuser takes advantage of a child’s trust, their desire to please, and their innocence. If you are the victim of sexual abuse, you know the pain is much deeper than a physical pain. Somehow the wounds made by sexual abuse scar the victims in ways that overflow into every aspect of their lives. Do not underestimate the damage done by sexual abuse.

Victims may suffer from any of the following: sleeplessness, nightmares, depression, a desire to cut or harm yourself, desires to numb yourself with alcohol and drugs, paralyzing fear, inability to trust or maintain good relationships, guilt, regret, shame, unhealthy sex relationships, avoiding life, overly concerned with control, eating disorders, suicidal thoughts, anxiety, stress, headaches…

If you are the victim of sexual abuse, God wants to help you restore your life. He wants to empower you to overcome the pain of your past and begin anew. The key to moving on is forgiveness. As hard as it may seem, you must forgive your abuser. I strongly recommend Christian counseling to sort through the emotions that are causing problems in your life. If you know someone who has been sexually abused, offer them lots of patience, understanding, and a listening ear. Urge them to get help from a professional so they can embrace all of the wonderful God has planned for their future.

Lord, I pray for you would open the door for the victims of sex abuse to get real help. I pray you would completely and totally heal them of all the emotional pain they experience. I pray for deliverance from all of the harmful ways in which they have learned to cope. Thank You, Lord, for your healing power and ability to restore. Thank You that You have placed so many caring people in the paths of Your people. In Christ’s Name, Amen.

You are not alone. Click here to watch a powerful YouTube video on from Gospel Rapper Json. He and his wife speak out about the affects of sexual abuse.

© 2015 Kim Bond

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For Victims of Emotional Abuse

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As Christians, we are not exempt from the problems of the world. Many of us ask for prayers in tough situations. In fact, some prayer requests I have read even recount signs of emotional abuse. Emotional abuse seems to surface often in romantic relationships and parent-child relationships, but it could be in employment settings or friendships, etc.

Signs of emotional abuse include:

  • Blaming when it is inappropriate. Abusers cannot accept their own faults. They rarely apologize and will most often shift their own blame to the victim.
  • Manipulating the victim’s emotions by rejecting him/her. It is healthy sometimes for an angry person to walk away and cool off, but an abuser might refuse to communicate for the purpose of controlling their victim’s emotions.
  • Humiliating and isolating the victim. Abusers will often call their victim names and keep them from maintaining healthy friendships.

If you think you are the victim of emotional abuse, know that God cares deeply for you. He knows your pain and wants to help. Victims must find the peace that comes only from God when the abuser becomes angry and abusive. They should be aware they are highly treasured no matter how the abuser tries to manipulate them. Even when the storms blow, we can keep calm and recite the truth of God’s Word about ourselves as the children of God.

I strongly recommend prayer, supportive friends, scheduling a talk with your pastor, and the help of a Christian counselor. They will be your best resources since they can gain a good understanding of your particular situation.

If you have endured emotional abuse, you may be walking around feeling the weight of your own sin along with the heavy burden of blame heaped on by your abuser. Remember that as a Christian, you no longer need to carry the weight of a sin burden. Click here to enjoy a beautiful song with touching images called “What Sin?”

If you are not a Christian, consider giving your life to Jesus today. His blood already paid your sin debt but if you do not receive the payment then you are still in your sin. You cannot pay for this sin yourself. Only the blood of a sinless man, Jesus, can pay for your sin. Accept God’s plan of salvation by crying out to the Lord in prayer right now. Jesus, I accept your blood as payment for my lifetime of sin. I believe you died and rose again on the third day. I want to have an eternal life that is free from pain in heaven with you. Amen.

That’s all it takes to become a Christian. Blessings!

© 2015 Kim Bond

Draw Near exists to glorify God and help others draw near to Christ by providing free resources. Click here to learn more about God and here to access free Christian ebooks. Thanks for visiting. Stay blessed!