Sometimes I think of our old flat
where we lived in the city;
Wood floors, wood doors, and an antique stove,
peeling wallpaper and a deathtrap terrace;
But there we shared our first kiss
And ghosts from the past came for a visit.
Sometimes I think of our old park
where we used to go
with old architecture,
the bright flowers arranged just so,
Funny I can't remember
the way to get back
to our old park in the city.
I wish I'd complained less
and spent more time
enjoying young love
and living on our last dime
...in the city.
Behold, what I have seen to be good and fitting is to eat and
drink and find enjoyment in all the toil with which one
toils under the sun the few days of his life that God has
given him, for this is his lot. —Ecclesiastes 5:18
© 2016 Kim Bond
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I hear lots of myths circulating among single Christians. Are you a single Christian who has been deceived by sexual myths? Keep reading to learn the truth about three infamous myths.
MYTH #1) MY FUTURE SPOUSE WANTS ME TO BE EXPERIENCED IN SEXUAL INTERCOURSE. Christian men and women desire someone who is pure. Choosing to either watch pornography or have premarital sex muddles your heart, mind, and spirit. You are also distancing yourself from God when you engage in these sins. Plus, you run the risk of becoming addicted, contracting a disease, or getting pregnant. Your future spouse would prefer to discover this new activity together with you. If you are dating someone who wishes you were more experienced, I would question whether this person is really the right one for you.
MYTH #2) I NEED TO HAVE PREMARITAL SEX TO KNOW WHETHER OR NOT I AM SEXUALLY COMPATIBLE WITH THE PERSON I AM PLANNING TO MARRY. Not only is this statement a myth, the concept of sexual compatibility is also a myth. Sex was designed to be an expression of your love for your spouse. Your major focus should be on bringing pleasure to the other person. Since people are unique, it requires time to learn the best way to give your spouse the most pleasurable experience. So good sex depends on knowing one another, and it also depends on the health of the relationship. If one person stops working to maintain the relationship, your sex life will could become less pleasurable even if it was fun at the beginning of the relationship.
MYTH#3) IF I HAVE BEEN SEXUALLY ACTIVE IN THE PAST, I AM NO LONGER VALUABLE. The right person is going to love you no matter what. God has forgiven all of the sins in your life including any sexual sins you were engaged in. You can be completely honest with both God and your future spouse about your sexual history.
If you keep studying God’s Word and putting it into practice, you will be completely prepared for your future spouse. Don’t worry about a thing.
I hope you have enjoyed this Christian & Single blog series. I have not written from the high and mighty position of having done everything right. I have written from the humble view of having made mistakes and watching the Lord make everything work together for my good. God has great plans for you. I am praying for you to stumble onto that loving someone while clinging to the Lord.
© 2015 Kim Bond
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